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On this Valentine’s Day, remember your worth. Graciously accept the love and compliments bestowed upon you as you deserve them.

Love,

Emily McCarthy

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I adore the rules of etiquette – sometimes following them, sometimes throwing my own spin on them. I’ve been collecting vintage etiquette books and a few just came from my mother-in-law, it’s amazing to see how times have changed. Some rules have evolved while others have stood the test of time. We will be highlighting a few of my favorites every week! Enjoy!

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[  s o u r c e  : : :  Manners to Grow On by Tina Lee   : : :  copyright 1955 ]

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Guest Welcome Tutorial by Emily McCarthy www.emilymccarthy.com

Welcome to a new series on the blog, quick How-To tutorials to help you style your home, gift with pizazz and entertain with southern charm. I’m starting out this series with a recent project for The Southern Woman’s Show here in Savannah. Jaclyn with Shop My Savannah hosted a segment in which I shared hostess tips with a group of fabulous ladies.

Entertaining is one of my favorite things and I LOVE making guests feel welcome and comfortable during their visit. We live in Savannah so we often host visitors for a weekend here and there – all exploring this charming place we live in!

All of these tips are SO easy and do not take a lot of effort. My secret to easy entertaining is to grab things here and there so you have them on-hand for impromptu arrivals. Stock up on the basics and you can whip anything together in a jiffy. For the Guest Room Welcome Tutorial below, these are all things I had in my home that didn’t require a special trip to the store.

Here’s a list of my favorite things to keep on-hand that always work for impromptu guests:

Assorted Cocktail Napkins and Guest Towels

Travel size and Sample Soaps, Toiletries, Shower Caps, etc.

Small bottles of water and beverages

Assorted candies and chocolates – I love to include local favorites of the area (Pralines, Byrd Cookies, etc)

Locally designed stationery that features landmarks and key locations in Savannah OR a set of your family Signature Stationery

So here it goes…I’ve designed a Guest Welcome Kit for both the bedroom and bathroom – both equally important.

First up, the Guest Room Basket!

What’s included:

1) Flowers – Fresh is preferred, Silk will do on the fly.

2) Plush Bath and Hand Towels – we received the best gift for our wedding, a set of assorted “GUEST” towels – each a different color. Such a great idea for embroidery!

3) Bottled Beverage

4) Something Savory or Sweet

5) Stationery and Pen for writing a quick note home! Or in some cases, the guests have left a sweet note before leaving. We have kept those over the years to reminisce.

6) Candle and Matches – after all, they are coming to Relax and Unwind!

7) Another addition that I often include are local magazines!

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Next up, the Bathroom! 

Okay, I KNOW you love to confiscate the hotel room toiletries and what better way to try out new products right!

I toss them into a ginger jar for guests who forgot anything. This includes shampoo/conditioner, shower cap, toothbrush/toothpaste, etc.

My favorite  is the juice carafe – it provides them with a nice clean glass of water or you can serve orange juice in the morning. Toss in a few paper guest towels and some yummy soaps and there you have it. There aren’t any rules about what to include or what not to include – whatever you feel will make your guests feel welcome.

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Working on a few tutorials for you! Would love to hear your ideas hello@emilymccarthy.com –

All the best,

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How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

I’m sure all of you are busy bees wrapping up your gifts with care so I wanted to show you an easy way to blind-seam wrap a gift. Blind-seam wrapping allows you to wrap a gift without the seam of paper and tape showing. I also love using alternative options for ribbon, adornments and gift wrapping options. I tend to buy all occasion gift wrap and change out the ribbon and colors depending on the season. This year, I went with lots of metallics and mixed animal prints and mixed in red and emerald ribbons. I also love using my Signature Gift Tags from my Shoppe. Izzy and Audrey over at Let’s Play Dear, a beautiful online publication, in Savannah asked me to show them a quick demonstration of gift wrapping tips for the holidays. I LOVE wrapping gifts so I was tickled to get dolled up and wrap some of my favorite treats. Here’s a step-by-step instruction on how to blind-seam wrap a gift. Enjoy and have a wonderful holiday season! Photos by Izzy Hudgins.

Step 1: Cut your paper to the appropriate size of your box – allowing the edges to cover a little over half of the box thickness.

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

Step 2: Adhere your paper to the box – anywhere will work just fine.

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

Step 3: Completely cover your box with the gift wrap.

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

Step 4: When the gift wrap is completely covering the box, allow the overlap to lay over 1 side/edge of the box, press down along the edge with your fingers so that you crease the paper along the edge of the box.

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

Step 5: Using the crease as a guide, fold the excess paper under and create a folded edge down the side of the box.

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

Step 6: Place double sided tape underneath the fold and adhere to the box – creating a blind-seam effect on the edge.

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

Step 7: Finish off the sides of the box with standard wrapping methods.

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Step 8: Using your fingers, press and crease all of the edges of your package to create a clean tight look.

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

Step 9: Estimate the length of your ribbon to criss-cross wrap your box. Fold the ribbon in half and cut on a diagonal to create a flag edge.

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

Step 10: Lay the ribbon across 1 length of the box, turn the box over and criss cross the ribbon, wrapping it around the remaining length of the box.

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

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Step 11: Once you’ve turned the box back to the top side, feed the edges of the ribbon underneath the existing ribbon on each side.

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Step 12: Pull and extend the edges of the ribbon and begin to tie the first stages of a box – the same as tying your shoelace. The ribbon will automatically tighten around the box without having to hold down the ribbon – instant tightly wrapped bow!

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Step 13: While finishing out your bow construction, take this opportunity to slide in a beautiful adornment like a gold magnolia leaf seen here.

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and presto – your beautifully wrapped gift is ready!

How to Blind-Seam Wrap a Gift by Emily McCarthy - Photos by Izzy Hudgins

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Due the popularity of the  MONOGRAM ETIQUETTE GUIDE and INVITATION ETIQUETTE GUIDE, we decided to work up a lovely little WEDDING INVITATION 101 Guideline to share!

Over at EMMA J DESIGN, we often receive questions about stationery format, etiquette and types of products available. We thought this would help everyone know the various wedding invitation items available custom suites.

hello@emmajdesign.com if you would like to know more about our custom wedding commissions.

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Due the popularity of the  MONOGRAM ETIQUETTE GUIDE and INVITATION ETIQUETTE GUIDE, we decided to work up a lovely little STATIONERY 101 Guideline to share!

Over at EMMA J DESIGN, we often receive questions about stationery format, etiquette and types of products available. We thought this would help everyone know the various stationery items available for personalization!

hello@emmajdesign.com if you would like to know more or place an order!

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Throughout the 10 plus years I have been working in the paper industry, I have seen the good, the bad, the ugly and unfortunately, the DIY disasters. In a new world of DIY everything, your invitations should not be one of them. Please hire a professional for this timeless piece of your marriage as your invitations will be something you treasure for many years to come. Here are my top 5 reasons to hire a professional to design or print your wedding invitations.
PRINTING

Thinking about printing your invitations at home or at work? My guess is your printer doesn’t provide archival inks and offset printing quantity. What does that mean? 5 years from now, you’re going to look at your wedding invitations only to discover the ink has started to fade and turn yellow or brown. Over time, the design will mostly disappear leaving you with a faded piece of paper that has also started to yellow and fade. Stick to offset printing, letterpress, thermography or letterpress and 100% cotton papers so that in years to come, you can share your invitations with your children and they will see it in the same way you intended: classic, timeless and representative of your wedding day. I still have a copy of my grandparent’s folded traditional wedding invitation – still in the same condition from almost 75 years ago.
DESIGN

Graphic designers and Stationers have specific software they license to create invitations and graphics. This software is extremely expensive and they are trained to use this properly. When it comes to the artwork on your invitations, a seasoned designer can properly illustrate graphics for your invitation – either from scratch or from trusted libraries of design elements. Attempting to use clipart from your word program or pulling images from the internet will not result in a good quality image. All images on the internet have been reduce in resolution so they will often appear blurry. Images needs to be at least 300 dpi in resolution to be used in graphics and printing, while all web images are only 72 dpi in resolution. If you do choose to design your own invitations, please do not take artwork from other designers’ websites and samples – this is highly unethical and unfair to these professionals.
FONTS

Graphic designers and Stationers have extensive libraries of fonts available for commercial use. Their sources will far exceed the font selections available on your computer. We take time to study font trends, purchase updated versions and new scripts to make available to our clients. From choosing a classic font designed by a calligrapher or a block print that will stand the test of time, we know what will best in the design and what will not look dated after a couple of years. Chances are, if you can find fonts on a free font website, they have been in the market for quite a few years and are starting to look dated. Best to stick to classic fonts and hand-rendered lettering.
ETIQUETTE

Oh, how this is SO important for your wedding invitations. Referring back to my blog post a few weeks ago, this is just the icing on the cake – there are many layers to the correct wording on wedding invitations. So many in fact, that a true professional will know all of the proper etiquette rules for your wedding invitation wording. Through their experience, resources and etiquette guides, they will provide you with the correct name order, host lines, time, date and location specifics. I cannot tell you how many wedding invitations I have seen over the years with improper wording and etiquette. A few of the most common mistakes are: 1) Using “Requesting the honour of your presence” while getting married outside of a church setting. This is reserved for a house of worship ONLY. 2) Including the Zip code in the address line, 3) Not including full spelled out names of parents and bride/groom and 4) Not spelling out the state on the envelopes – this is just to name a few! In addition to wording etiquette there are specific ways your invitation should be layered in the envelope, addressed and mailed. 
PAPER

The paper industry is a very broad industry – there are hundreds of paper options available to the public, trade-only and designers. We have the experience to know how designs will look on specific papers with chosen printing techniques. In most cases, the printers you have at home will not be able to support a thicker stock appropriate for wedding invitation. Paper and envelopes often get stuck in the printer leaving you with frustration and an unsuccessfully printed invitation. It is also important that all of the paper is purchased from the same company. Paper runs can vary at times leaving you with varying shades of whites or ecrus. Buying from discount sites can sometimes leave you with mismatched envelopes and paper. 
Whether you work with me at EMMA J DESIGN or one of the many talented stationers available to brides like you, please let us assist you in designing a unique and timeless invitation for your wedding day. 
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  1. Kit Gana says

    wow!! This is really a very good tips. thank you for sharing this post.

    Unique Weddings


    September 26, 2012
Categories: etiquette, invitations, letterpress
Over the years, I have assisted party hostesses, brides and wedding planners with invitation etiquette and wording. In order to spread the word about invitation etiquette, I have created this handy guide to wording, dos and don’ts. Feel free to share, pin or study for your next event!
Custom invitations are available through EMMA J DESIGN.

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  1. The Dumpy Duchess says

    woo hoo! I found a fellow style blogger in Savannah! Beautiful blog! Loved this post. I'm definitely following you! I hope you'll visit my blog and follow me too!


    August 10, 2012
  2. Manners first says

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    August 10, 2012
  3. Courtney says

    What a charming way to ensure we remember our manners!


    September 20, 2012
  4. Cocktails & Lace says

    Love this! Thanks for sharing and letting us re-share. http://cocktailsandlace.com/2012/09/30/invitation-etiquette/


    September 30, 2012
Categories: etiquette, invitations, wedding invitations